Kate Schenk

You open the fridge and cannot decide what to eat. A message arrives and you read it six times before replying. Someone asks what you want to do at the weekend and your mind goes blank. These choices may once have felt ordinary. During or after divorce, however, even the smallest decision can feel strangely heavy. You may question yourself, delay answering or become overwhelmed by options that seem as though they should be easy. This is not a sign that you are weak, incapable or failing to...

You are not your thoughts. You are so much more. After divorce, there can be a voice in your head that suddenly becomes very loud. It tends to appear in the quiet moments, when the children aren't there, when you're lying awake at 2am, when you see another family seemingly getting on with life, or when you're faced with yet another decision you never imagined you'd have to make alone. It's the voice that asks, What if I can't do this? What if I've ruined everything? What if nobody ever loves...

Three stages of divorce recovery