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About Kate
The Full Story
When your marriage is falling apart, the last thing you need is to run into someone you know when you're barely holding it together.
Kate Schenk understands that feeling — because she lives it too. Rooted in a close-knit community herself, she knows how impossible it can feel to fall apart privately when everyone around you knows your name, your children's names and your family, your story.
That's why she created a space where you don't have to hold it together.
Kate is a specialist divorce and separation coach offering confidential online coaching across the UK.
Whether you're in the early shock of separation, navigating co-parenting, dealing with the logistical pressures and the emotional stress of divorce, or simply trying to figure out who you are on the other side — Kate provides the calm, steady support that helps you think clearly, grieve honestly, and move forward with dignity.
Sessions are online. Completely private. No waiting rooms, no awkward encounters. Just the support you deserve, from your own home.
Confidential. Compassionate. Completely private.
Diving Deeper
I came to marriage later than most. I'd spent years travelling solo, working abroad, collecting experiences and independence in equal measure. When I finally settled, I settled properly — marriage, then my first daughter, then my second.
And then life got hard in ways I hadn't expected.
I became ill with Bell's palsy. Depression followed. Then what I now understand to have been postnatal depression. Eventually, I made the decision to leave my marriage — one of the most emotionally difficult decisions I have ever had to make. There is no clean way through something like that. I know that now from the inside out.
It was during my coaching training with the IAWP that I began to understand something else about a relationship I was in — that it had been narcissistic. That realisation didn't make things simpler. In many ways, it made them harder. I spent a long time in survival mode, quietly rebuilding — finding a home for myself and my daughters, just weeks before the world shut down in 2020.
I have rebuilt my life more times than I'd care to count. And each time, I've come back a little clearer, a little steadier, a little more certain of what I'm made of. It hasn't always felt that way. There have been days when all I wanted was to hide under the duvet and wait for it to pass. But I have two remarkable daughters who look to me for strength — and that, more than anything, is what gets you up.
Reconnecting with a dear friend led me to where I am now — specialising in divorce coaching and, just as importantly, helping people find and step into their next chapter. Not just surviving the end of something. But building something worth looking forward to.
I won't pretend it's easy. But I do know it's possible. Because I've lived it.
Why called 'The Rural Divorce Coach?'
Honestly? Because I am one.
I don't live in a city. I don't have a corporate office or a lanyard. I live a real, ordinary, sometimes muddy rural life — and I understand what that means when things fall apart. The lack of anonymity. The smallness of community. The way you can feel desperately alone in the middle of somewhere everyone knows your name.
There aren't many coaches who truly understand that world. I do — because it's mine.
Let’s Work Together
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